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Reproductive Safety

How do I protect myself from STIs, and how do I get tested?

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Slide 1. CONSENT & COMMUNICATION
Slide 2. MYTH BUSTING MYTH: "If someone doesn't say no, that means yes." FACT: The absence of "no" is not consent. Consent requires an active, enthusiastic yes.
Slide 3. WHAT IS CONSENT? F Freely given: no pressure, manipulation, or substances R Reversible: anyone can change their mind, anytime Informed: both people understand what they're agreeing I to E Enthusiastic: yes because you want to, not because you feel you have to 2 S Specific: yes to one thing ≠ yes to everything
Slide 4. COERCION & PRESSURE Coercion is NOT consent. Pressure tactics include: "If you really cared about me, you would." Wearing someone down through repeated asking Making someone feel guilty for saying no Threatening to end the relationship Pushing for an answer while someone is drunk or high 4
Slide 5. Setting Limits Understanding Boundaries Setting limits is not rejection. Boundaries are how you Is Not Rejection communicate what you're comfortable with. Healthy relationships have them — and respect them. How to set one: "I'm not comfortable with that." "I want to slow down." "I need to stop." How to respond to one: "Thank you for telling me. We don't have to do that."
Slide 6. Checking in looks like: "Is this okay?" Consent Education "Do you want to keep going?" "What are you comfortable with?" What Consent Ignoring consent looks like: Looks & Sounds Continuing after someone goes quiet or tense Pretending not to hear "stop" or "wait" Like Interpreting passivity as permission
Slide 7. ALCOHOL, SUBSTANCES & CONSENT Someone who is drunk or high cannot give legal consent. This applies regardless of gender. "They seemed into it" is not a defense. "They didn't say no" is not consent. If you're unsure whether someone is sober enough to consent: stop. If you're too intoxicated to assess that: don't proceed. 4
Slide 8. COMMUNICATION IN RELATIONSHIPS Consent is ongoing, not a one-time checkbox. Good communication means: Checking in, especially when trying something new Being able to say what you want and don't want Listening without making someone feel bad for having limits It also applies to other situations like: Sharing someone's secrets Taking/posting photos of someone Physical affection with friends 2

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